Dawn's Digression.
Friday, February 27, 2004
Rosie O'Donnell Weds Longtime Girlfriend
Yahoo! News - Rosie O'Donnell Weds Longtime Girlfriend
I'm sorry, but I think this is shameful. I do not believe you run out and get married to make a political statement.
"O'Donnell told the crowd that she and Carpenter...decided to dash to San Francisco after hearing President Bush endorse a proposed constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage Tuesday."
I understand wanting rights. Of course I do. But are you really going to marry someone just to make a political statement? Ugh. I don't understand why marriage is all about the politics. I don't get it. Marriage is about binding yourself to someone in love. Rights are a benefit given to heteros that we don't get. And that pisses us off, because we should have equal rights. Why would Rosie rob herself and Kellyi of all the fun stuff that goes with planning a wedding? All the anticipation. The hoopla. It's fun and exciting. A celebration. Instead they have a political statement.
Sure, I went to Vermont and married Michele. It had nothing to do with politics for me. It was important to her that we be legal somewhere, and I had always wanted to go to Vermont, and the fact it could be performed legally was a definite plus. But I didn't gain anything from it, and I didn't expect to. I married her because I love her and want to share my life with her. That is what marriage is.
We need to be careful that in our quest for equal rights we do not forget what marriage is. Actually... I suppose there are different ways to look at marriage. There are those who marry for the sake of religion, those who marry for the sake of rights, some that marry only to celebrate their commitment. Or any variation in there.
I do believe, though, there should be some sanctity. Marriage has been made a mockery. People marry and divorce as if it doesn't really matter. People like Dennis Rodman and Britney Spears go to Vegas, get married, and immediately have it annulled. That is disgusting. If you really want to see people who violate the sanctity of marriage, take a look at some of those people.
I know this entry is a bit jumbled. It probably doesn't make much sense. I feel passionately gay people should have the same rights as straight ones. Our relationships should be validated. We should have health insurance. We should get tax breaks. All of that. I think that to expect gay marriage to be legalized at this moment in time is a little...idealist. Any type of change takes time. We have made great strides regarding our rights. I'm not saying we shouldn't try and we shouldn't fight. I'm just saying we need to take a look a history. We're going to have to go through everything African-Americans and women have gone through in this country for their rights. It's a long road, but one I'm sure we'll come to the end of in my lifetime.
I'm going to shut up now. I'm sure I've already talked myself into a corner. ;)
I'm sorry, but I think this is shameful. I do not believe you run out and get married to make a political statement.
"O'Donnell told the crowd that she and Carpenter...decided to dash to San Francisco after hearing President Bush endorse a proposed constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage Tuesday."
I understand wanting rights. Of course I do. But are you really going to marry someone just to make a political statement? Ugh. I don't understand why marriage is all about the politics. I don't get it. Marriage is about binding yourself to someone in love. Rights are a benefit given to heteros that we don't get. And that pisses us off, because we should have equal rights. Why would Rosie rob herself and Kell
Sure, I went to Vermont and married Michele. It had nothing to do with politics for me. It was important to her that we be legal somewhere, and I had always wanted to go to Vermont, and the fact it could be performed legally was a definite plus. But I didn't gain anything from it, and I didn't expect to. I married her because I love her and want to share my life with her. That is what marriage is.
We need to be careful that in our quest for equal rights we do not forget what marriage is. Actually... I suppose there are different ways to look at marriage. There are those who marry for the sake of religion, those who marry for the sake of rights, some that marry only to celebrate their commitment. Or any variation in there.
I do believe, though, there should be some sanctity. Marriage has been made a mockery. People marry and divorce as if it doesn't really matter. People like Dennis Rodman and Britney Spears go to Vegas, get married, and immediately have it annulled. That is disgusting. If you really want to see people who violate the sanctity of marriage, take a look at some of those people.
I know this entry is a bit jumbled. It probably doesn't make much sense. I feel passionately gay people should have the same rights as straight ones. Our relationships should be validated. We should have health insurance. We should get tax breaks. All of that. I think that to expect gay marriage to be legalized at this moment in time is a little...idealist. Any type of change takes time. We have made great strides regarding our rights. I'm not saying we shouldn't try and we shouldn't fight. I'm just saying we need to take a look a history. We're going to have to go through everything African-Americans and women have gone through in this country for their rights. It's a long road, but one I'm sure we'll come to the end of in my lifetime.
I'm going to shut up now. I'm sure I've already talked myself into a corner. ;)
Dawn, 9:18 AM
